“Too many ambitious women strive to accomplish all their goals alone, leading to dangerous levels of stress and anxiety. Learn how a strong support network and meaningful connections are crucial not only to your long-term success, but to your peace of mind.” Elayne Fluker
I picked up this audiobook after listening to an interview with the author. I had not heard of Elayne Fluker before the interview. After listening to her, I wondered how I had not heard of her sooner. To be fair, her book was just released in 2021. Her book, Get Over ‘I Got It’, hit me right where I live—at the intersection of “just let me do it myself” and “feeling overwhelmed, but don’t dare admit it.” This book is filled with lessons she has learned from her professional and personal life, as well as from the people she has interviewed on her podcast Support is Sexy.
The book flows through four sections: ‘Having it all doesn’t mean doing it all alone,” “Ask empowering questions,” “Let go of the ‘how’,” and “Believe in the possibilities.” Each section has three to five chapters, and each chapter ends with a set of action steps. The primary audience is women—working women, stay-at-home women, mothers, single women, married women, retired women, young women, older women, etc. The primary message: “ask for support.”
Elayne Fluker, narrates her own audiobook. Every now and then she seems to stop reading and interjects new insights. Listening to her gentle voice feels like you are sitting in a coffee shop with your best girlfriend. Her voice is warm, welcoming, and encouraging. She uses her own struggles as points of connections for her listeners. Her words, and those of the women she interviews for the book, gently challenge the listener to reflect on how many times they say “I got it!” when, in fact, they are anxious, stressed, overwhelmed, and are only pretending that they do not need help. If you are a person who does not ask for help, you will want to read this book. It might just change your life. (5 Hours 57 minutes, Audible)
About the Author
Michelle Loyd-Paige is the executive associate to the president for diversity and inclusion at Calvin University, a member of Maple Avenue Ministries, and the founder of Preach Sista! (preachsista.org).